Depression and Soulmates
As we head into that time of discount sales on red edible underwear and bubblebath that comes in a champagne bottle, let us depressives remember one very important fact about romantic love:
It Sucks
If you have been diagnosed with depression, or even if you haven’t been diagnosed with depression, don’t make the mistake of thinking, “If I just find my soulmate, everything will be all right.” If you believe that, you are setting yourself up for a major heartache.
Let’s look at the problems in looking for a soulmate.
There Is No Such Thing As A Soulmate
The concept of a soulmate is that each couple makes up one half of a soul and that by only finding that special someone (usually around Valentine’s Day) you will feel complete and happy or at least able to cope with misery.
Bull cookies.
If you believe that people have souls, then why do you believe they’ve spilt in half? If you don’t beleive people have souls, why look for someone to make you complete?
You are putting all of the eggs of your happiness into the basket case that is your romantic partner or longed-for future romantic partner. By thinking that you need a soulmate, you have closed off all of the other avenues of life that can bring you happiness and good mental health.
In order to survive through life, you need to be flexible enough to adapt. A vast multitude of people can serve as your romantic partners and provide all of your needs in exactly the same way. Don’t expect them to make you happy — and don’t let them make you miserable.
True Love
If you want true love, adopt a pet from your local animal shelter. If you’re lucky enough to have a supportive family, send them Valentines and thank them.
Hope this helps.
February 12th, 2009 at 9:01 pm
The condition of split soul is an internal condition relating to a lack of integration between one’s masculine and feminine sides.
The masculine is the action oriented mind of reason and logic. The feminine relates to intuitive and emotional intelligence. Your true soulmate, or as I prefer to call it, Divine Complement, offers you a reflection of your more repressed side. So it’s not that they complete you as much as helping you to embody their qualities. It’s true that not all soulmate relationships are happy ones. But when they are they really are. I have plenty of stories in my book, Divine Complement that might change your heart about the possibility that you can have a fulfilled soulmate relationship. Visit my site to read about my book.
Ariadne Green
February 12th, 2009 at 9:20 pm
What happens if you’re gay?
February 15th, 2009 at 6:42 pm
Rena, I completely agree. People think if they can just find that special someone, they’ll be happy. I am with the most wonderful person in the world, and I’m still depressed. You shouldn’t look to someone to complete you or make you feel better. As much support as he gives me, he cannot change my brain chemistry.
Your blog is really interesting - I just found it!
February 24th, 2009 at 12:45 pm
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