The Alone-ness…
A dear friend and I have recently been discussing our single status. We were trying to think up a plan of action last night so that we could avoid having the same conversation over again five years from now. (Or even on a weekly basis from now until five years from now.)
My friend is always quick to point out that I don’t actually want to date, or so I claim, so I don’t really get to complain. I have to say, for all my talk of man-hating, she sort of has a point.
The problem with me lamenting my single status is that I absolutely adore this glorious single-dom. I’m not sure if its the overwhelming number of duds I’ve gone out with or what, but I hate all the to-do that comes with dating someone.
This is not to say that the opportunity to date has not come my way from time to time. I’ve been told what an asshat I am for dumping a number of very suitable suitors for ridiculous reasons. In fact, I get told that regularly.
I suppose the problem is that in being alone, you know what you are going to get. I know that after work, I’m probably going to ride my horse, hang out with my family, maybe play some tunes on the guitar and make some plans around the Ranch. I know that at no point will I sit staring expectantly at the phone, willing the person I love to make it ring. I’ll never have to stand around, all dolled up and with freshly waxed legs, knowing that I’m being stood up. I can pass out in front of all the lame movies that I want, and I never have to wake up in a puddle of anyone’s drool but my own.
Like I said, glorious. This single life is simply glorious.
But then why do I go through a phase every now and then thinking, Man, it sure as hell would be nice to have someone to call on the phone, to cuddle up next to while I watch Degrassi re-runs?
August 15th, 2007 at 9:52 pm
Most of the time, I, too, absolutely love the wonderful life of single-dom, but there are times when I wonder if I’ll be having the same conversation with friends five years down the road. For now, I think we should just live life day-to-day and when the right man comes along, we’ll know it. It’ll just be something that CLICKS with us, I’m sure!
August 15th, 2007 at 11:32 pm
For me, “one” alternates between the Loneliest number, and the awesomest number. Being single, a person gets to focus all their energy on themselves. It’s very self-centered, and very self-satisfying. being a couple introduces things like hurt feelings and comprimse.
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